To Be a Better Leader, Try This!
Truly great leaders are good at many things. Mostly though, the best leaders are good at one important thing.
I’m not going to make you read the whole post.
If you want to be better at work, at home and just better at life, pick one of the following and make it a daily practice:
2. Tai Chi (Taiji) or Qigong
3. Meditation (particularly the body scan meditation)
First, each one of these practices can lead to longer telomeres, reduce stress and help you better regulate emotions.
Longer telomeres and less stress means you can live longer. If you are healthier and live a long time, you are more likely to gain wisdom and make a bigger difference in the world.
Second, each of the practices above can increase your emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence sounds like one of those corporatized words that I totally can’t stand, like co-creation and collaboration. It falls down there with performance review and health risk assessment in terms and words people use too often and concepts that I really think need to be changed or done away with.
So I’m not going to use the word emotional intelligence again.
Except in this next sentence, because, you know, it’s the name of a book, and I could just leave out the book name, but then, how would you find it if you wanted to?
According to Daniel Goleman in his book, Working with Emotional Intelligence, if you want to succeed in your career and be seen as a strong leader then you must master emotional Intelligence.
I used to think this sort of thing was something we were born with. I was not born with the ability to perform well in social situations (I used to have awful social anxiety. It was the worst. I was aware of everything in a social situation, including negative thoughts and stories about what could happen, but never actually did).
But we can learn to increase and even master the art of dealing skillfully with our emotions and thus performing better at work, helping our careers be more successful and being better leaders.
All these successes can be used for personal gain like curating investments and wealth and swimming in a pool of money and self congratulations.
We can also use these skills and our new found success to help more people and focus on the things that bring joy to our lives.
Each one of the 3 practices in a doorway into getting in touch with the emotions that arise in our body and mind at any given time.
If we take time to become more and more aware of the emotions inside us, we grow.
If we further allow and accept those emotions instead of fighting them, ignoring them or pushing them down deep, we can begin to regulate our emotions.
Lastly, if we cultivate these practices long enough and encourage gratitude and joy to enter our lives, we have begun the process to become more successful.
Understanding our emotional states and working skillfully with them allow us to be better.
Take time today to label the emotions you feel. Just try it. See how it goes for you.
Through this practice we can become better leaders.
We become better humans.